A very important point from Tammy Lenski, on how your perspective and truth are not the same:
In a mediation recently, each side was quite sure their memory of the original conflict situation was the right one, the correct one, The Truth.
I was reminded of the problem created by confusing perspective with Truth, with absolute rightness.
The Other Side, a traditional Zen story
One day a young man reached the edge of a wide and fast-moving river during his travel to another town. He sat on the banks for hours, pondering how to cross safely and get to his destination. Just as he was about to return to the village from which he’d started, he saw a well-respect Zen teacher on the other side of the river.
The young man called over, “Wise one, can you tell me how to get to the other side of this river?”
The teacher thought quietly for a moment, then called over, “”My son, you are on the other side.”
